Today marks three weeks that my husband has been out of state. We live in Chicago and he’s in New York working for a temporary but indefinite amount of time. This isn’t the first time we’ve been apart for work or personal reasons. At one point in our marriage, we were away from each other for nearly six months. People are always shoked that we can be apart and stay happily married. I always tell them that we’re actually really married, not fake married. Which means that we can stay in love across state lines. Our relationship continues even if he leaves the zip code.
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Honestly, I enjoy a little time on my own. I’ve always been an independent sort of Bitch so being alone isn’t all that hard for me. It’s nice to cook what I want to eat without worrying about if the non-pork eating Hubs can eat it. Or to delete all the wrestling from the DVR and fill it up with reality TV crap. Him not being here lets me get a taste of single life for just a short time. And it will be at least another week or so before I start to miss him like crazy.
Pink has really great song that identify with called Leave Me Alone (I’m Lonely). Part of the lyrics go something like:
I don’t wanna wake up with another
But I don’t wanna always wake up with you either
No you can’t hop into my shower
All I ask for is one fuckin’ hour
You taste so sweet
But I can’t eat the same thing every day
Cuttin off the phone
Leave me the fuck alone
Tomorrow I’ll be beggin’ you to come home
I think that we often fall into the trap of thinking that being in a committed relationship means being joined at the hip. Or that you can’t have fun without your other half or spend time pursuing your separate interests. But the truth is that successful relationships happen when you figure out a way to blend your lives together while still keeping your personal identities. Whether it’s your girls night out with your best Bitches, taking that yoga class at your gym or just watching what you want to watch on TV without having to take a vote.
I’m love my husband more than I can possibly describe here in words, and I enjoy the time I spend with him because he is the male version of me in so many ways. But there is no way that I could possibly spend all day, every day with him without choking him in his sleep. It’s not about being away from him. It’s about getting more time with myself. And I think that at the end of it, I walk away with a little more appreciation for what he brings to the table in our relationship and understand a little better why I can’t possibly live without him.
What about you guys? What’s the longest you’ve been away from your significant other? Do you feel like being apart makes your relationship weaker or stronger?
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longest time apart 6 months..shortest 1 day. i still joke that since he's gotten out of the military i miss the deployments cause we weren't up each others asses or looking at the other going why the hell are you still here.
Being apart made us stronger especially earlier this year when we split for a month(we hadn't been apart since 2007 we made each other nuts).
when we met i called him my rash cause he wouldn't go away, now after 10 yrs i don't want the ointment but i'd give for a night at a hotel lol.
I've dated a lot of military guys myself. I loved the deployments and almost never really started missing them until it almost time to come home.
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