I’m one of those people who you either love or hate almost immediately. Of course, everybody has the right to change their mind based on their individual interactions with me later. But the fact is I have a big personality even I’m not trying and most people develop a strong opinion about me right away. It’s been this way all of my life, so I’ve learned to accept the fact that I’m not everybody’s cup of tea. And I don’t waste my time trying to convince everyone what’s so great about me. They either get me or they don’t. This isn’t Facebook and there isn’t a “Like” button on my forehead.
Sure it’s nice to have people like you. But you can’t be everything to everybody. If you spend your days worrying about whether people like you, you’re not going to have time to brush your teeth, let alone go out in the take the world by the balls. You will find yourself doing things you don’t want to so that people will like you. You compromise your own beliefs and desires because you care more about what other people think about you than what you think about you.
Trying To Get Other People To Like You Is A Sign Of Mediocrity
Now, trying to be a good person is different than trying to make sure people like you. For example, I don’t kick puppies but it’s not because I want you to think I’m cool. I do it because I don’t believe that people who attack defensiveless creatures are worth much in the grand scheme of things. And I aspire to be a much better person than that. The difference is that I want to be a good person for myself. Whether you like it is really none of my business.
Any salesman will tell you that you have to work very hard to sell a mediocre product. Smart, useful, fun products sell themselves. And people are the same way. You have to put more work into unloading a mediocre person than a smart, useful, fun person. Anybody who worries too much about getting me to like them is basically telling me that they think that they’re a mediocre person.
I’d Rather Be Hated For What I Am Than Liked For What I Am Not.
Be careful about determining your self worth in other people’s eyes. People are entitled to have their opinions but your opinion of yourself carries more weight. If you believe that you are being the best person you can be, then that should be good enough for you. There will people who don’t like who you are regardless of whether you deserve it or not. There’s nothing you can do about it, though. You’ll just have to figure out how to survive with a few less fans as you go through life. Fortunately, the only person’s “like” you can possibly live without is your own.
What do you think about other people’s opinions of you? Do you worry about whether people like you? Do you feel uneasy when you know there is someone who just doesn’t like you for no reason? What, if anything, do you do about it?
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